For many years, everything I did was carefully thought out, spending my time on only those pursuits that would be the most productive use of my time only doing those activities that were “practical “ such as things that made me the most money. This eventually became all the things I my head told me I should do. But as time went on my spirit started feeling neglected and unhappy.
The two essential parts of the soul that almost always seems to be in opposition are the head and the heart. The head is the analytical member of the soul devoid of most feeling s and just tends to looks at the cold hard facts. But the heart is the feeling part of one ‘s spirit and is also part of the soul which often takes back seat to what the brain thinks is best for us.
No matter how impractical my brain told me those things were, deep down I still yearned do to the things my heart really desired. My head still is fiercely practical but now I make it a point to make time for all to those things that my heart always desired to do. When I started to do that, I began to tune in to and live for my spirit.
For many of us, the things we wish we could do are those things that deep down that make us feel truly happy. We may find that our happiness from achieving success could also mean feelings of personal freedom or creativity or even feelings of recognition, pride and satisfaction. Psychologists call these “core” feelings and pursuing them give us a sense of self worth. Our souls are constantly seeking opportunities and relationships that help us to develop core feelings even though we may not always realize it.
During the day take 10 minutes to sit quietly and engage yourself in considering different areas of your life which are important to you such as, career, money, family, friends, home, health, travel, etc. Look at or remember events or situations when you had a sense of vitality and joy. Which feelings were the most uplifting and positive for you? What were you doing when you felt them? Now, when making your goals, look at it from the perspective of the heart and ask yourself, what do I need to do to create a situation so that I can experience these feelings all the time?
As I started to do this on a regular basis I found that my choices led to more fulfilling activities and before I knew it, I was on my way to transforming my life into the one I always wanted but always thought was too impractical or a “waste of time”.
Now when I look at my goals, the plan for them becomes more meaningful and is helping me to achieve a more true purpose for my spirit and soul. The mutual goal making between the head and the heart has led me to a happier state of mind which is now calmer, less stressed out and now more willing to give the heart equal consideration in the decision making process.